Wednesday, April 26
25 Years
Yesterday my parents celebrated their 25th Wedding Anniversary. That's really a very big deal.Technically last night was only part of several "celebrations" starting with Christmas where dad gave her an Anniversary ring set (as he had proposed on Christmas 25 years earlier.) Then they took two trips to Florida this winter, each for a week (though that's not specifically out of the ordinary, but still special.) And then besides some champagne last night they will be going to a "Spanish Night" celebration with a 5 course dinner punctuated by flamenco dancing along with several of their friends. This as well is something that isn't directly related to their Anniversary or the fact that it's the 25th, but it's very special none the less and both are very excited about it.
Thinking about this last night made me realize how much I want that to happen to me. I really want to spend not just 25 years with someone but the whole rest of my life! I had the same feelings a few years back when both sets of Grandparents celebrated their 50th Wedding Anniversaries. It was a real milestone & it's sad how common divorce has become. I'm so happy that my parents are still in love with each other after all this time, and that there's no sign that they won't continue to be in another 25 years & longer.
While I'm sure that no one gets married planning to be divorced in later years I feel like I should view getting married without that possibility. Yes I know things happen, but I don't want only having one husband in my life to be a goal so much as to be the norm. To be expected, though no without work, rather than simply an ideal that only a few actually attain.
Perhaps with my generation seeing all the crap that went on with our parents or the parents of our peers, we'll try harder to break the cycle rather than repeat the trend.
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Friday, April 21
It's a Matter of Taste
I have lately been thinking about some of my likes and dislikes, and I wonder if some of them are only liked by me because others expect me to like them, or possibly because I think they are things that I should like. I can slightly justify the second condition.Why shouldn't I be allowed to attempt to enjoy something more than I do naturally if I believe that I want to enjoy it. It's like acquiring a taste for something, and if it is only you that is making you want to enjoy something what is wrong with it? That I think is decided by if you can really identify where the motive is coming from, or at least where it is coming from most strongly.
Going away from abstract terms, I'm thinking about some of the movies and maybe even music that I've been watching/listening to. Awhile ago I put a LOT of movies on my netflix queue that were recommended to me by some friends whose taste in movies I trust. I've enjoyed some more than others, but I do feel somewhat compelled to watch all the movies that they recommended. This is partially because all but a few are older movies that I want to watch and want to like. But right now I have a movie out that I'm not that interested in watching. Is it ok to return it without watching it? I've been slightly busy lately and don't really have the extra time, but it's still important to me that I watch this movie and I may enjoy it more than I think.
On another movie note, I was finally able to watch the new Pride & Prejudice, and I did infact enjoy it, just like I enjoyed watching the A&E version and the movie version of Sense & Sensibility. But thinking about it, I'm not sure how much of that enjoyment was really from the story and the characters and such, and how much was from me wanting myself to enjoy it. I couldn't make it through the book (though I would like to try again now) but doesn't that say something? It isn't a crime to not enjoy a movie to the fullest extent, but I want to enjoy it so much!
I'll carry that idea further with Shakespeare. I do enjoy watching the plays, and we have a tradition of doing so each summer. But I just get the feeling that I don't get as much out of it as I should. That I should be riveted to what's going on and while I'm happy about going, at the same time I feel like I can't say "no to it. I'm not sure that I really want to, since I do very much want to enjoy his plays, but I can also think of other theatrical events that I'd rather see.
The music facet of this just hit me today. I was listening to a cd while doing some reading between classes, and it struck me that this cd, this band that I may be on more than one "favorite band" list of mine isn't actually so encaptivating. I wasn't sure if I was actually enjoying their music though I had listened to this cd at least a 100 times (I think)! I also know that my musical tastes have been easily swayed, or at least expanded by various people around me. I don't worry about it too much as I've never considered myself to have strong musical leanings, but I don't want my music choices to simply be taken from those around me.
My last point, that only loosely fits, is that I feel like my recent purchases in clothing have been closer to following trends then buying what I either truly like or what actually works with the other clothing I own. I also for the first time that I can remember have clothes that I'm nervous to wear, even if I feel that I like them. It's partially that my mom is likely to ask "is that new?" or "when did you get that?" and while I can't remember her ever being negative towards my clothing choices I don't enjoy the questioning.
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Friday, April 14
A Very Good Friday
Scott is coming! He is currently driving here to see me and there are 5 horrible hours left until huggling comences. Massive huggling. And Fish!We have several movies to watch - Gattaca, Memento, & Avalon. Each one gets a tad more obscure and progressivly weirder! I love cinema. I have also seen each of them, where Scott has not. Poor him subjected to filmatic desires while visiting for a truly fantastic holiday. It is a very good Friday.
On an almost connected note. My mother and I enjoyed a local performance of Fiddler of the Roof. It was very good and I'm quite glad that we don't arrange marriages over here.
It is absolutly gorgeous today. I'm very tempted to finally pull out all my summer clothes and put away the sweaters and such! I did swap out a couple of things when I pulled out my capri pants to wear today, but it is still a bit far to go all the way yet. It still is unfortunatly a significant 10-15 degree difference between 9 am when I have to be at school, and mid-day walking around campus making it hard to not have a varied wardrobe for another month or so.
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Tuesday, April 11
Oh Headphones!
I had set up a meeting for this morning at 10:30 on campus, and that's fine and all. I don't have class til 1:00, and I generally don't mind wasting some time on campus until then, and I can have lunch and all that stuff. I especially brought my laptop to make the time go faster. BUT I goofed... See, on MWFs I normally just bring my cd player (so old fashioned!) and keep my headphones in their little case, but because I was being different yesterday I kept my headphones plugged in and just stuffed into my cd player's bag :| This morning though I took OUT the cd player and its bag and the headphones with it... so now I'm sitting with my laptop, and the sound off painfully aware of everything that's happening, oh the horror!I actually went do the bookstore to see if I could get some cheap ones (not that the ones I normally used were very expensive) but the only headphones they had were a 3 pack O.o why you'd want to buy 3 pairs of headphones I really don't know. And I came very close, but I realized it was a bit silly paying $10 when I have at least two working pairs of headphones at home. I also thought about just going home and getting them, but that would have taken a total of 40 minutes, wnd while I had 2 hours in total to kill, it just didn't seem like it made sense to go home just to get headphones and then come back.
I guess that'll teach me to actually look at what's in my bag (I did have the headphone case!) when taking things out that I may infact need.
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Friday, April 7
Formality
I was lamenting a little bit last night that for the average person there are no truly formal events after prom. Weddings aren't ultra-formal anymore, theatre productions have been down-graded to nice casual, and even funerals don't require black.At the one and only memorial service I've been to, I was slightly distressed not to have an all black outfit, I had to settle for mostly navy. My mom told me not to worry as it isn't nearly as expected anymore, some people even will that people shouldn't wear black as it's too sad and somewhat depressing.
I however, would almost rather will that people be required to wear black. If they want to honor me after I'm gone then they can dress like they care and put real effort into an outfit and how they look. I would alternatively have people be "black tie" and wear long dresses with matching shoes, jewelry, gloves, hat etc. In that case they could be excused from the black-ness.
Really though, I just want to be able to dress up and not look out of place. I'd like to wear a long gown and have an excuse to get my hair done & justify buying long gloves. While I will admit that I also enjoy being able to dress a bit differently, I'd rather be in situations where I needed to wear at least a dress, if not a gown then move into a society where I can wear my jeans anywhere.
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I agree. I like getting gussied up every now and then.
But still, for guys, it's a lot easier to wear a nice suit than it is for girls to wear a formal dress.
By Scottish, at 12:23 PM, April 08, 2006
By easier do you mean "Have more occasions" or "less likely to trip" ?
By Avila, at 10:40 AM, April 09, 2006
I mean, less likey to get weird looks.
By Scottish, at 11:49 PM, April 09, 2006
Thursday, April 6
Comments?
I'm seeing a bit of a problem with the commenting-ing.So, I'm gonna try and figure that out, b/c to me at least it's only showing the number on the post's unique page, and when you go to comment. But it shouldn't be that way and it was working last night! So I've changed a few settings and hopefully they'll show up, in the mean time I've been re-publishing this like 50 times in the last 5 minutes ;)
Anyway. More and more I feel like my [Finite] Math class is next to useless. Not so much that I'm not learning, but that I'm learning things at least twice as fast as everyone else seems to be. Worst is that we have 2 parts to this class, MWF is the lecture where we listen to an old balding guy talk for 50 minutes. An the other part is TR listening to a Graduate Student attempt to teach for 50 minutes and pass in our homework and take quizzes. This is all well in good but hearing the material once is good for me, so yes I should go to lecture (I'd also feel worse to skip that) and then we talk about everything on TR but I have to go to that b/c that's when we pass in homework and take quizzes! So I end up having to settle for wasting my life by 25 minutes in each class MWF & TR. Though, yesterday I saw a girl sitting next to me in lecture doing her hw (for the class) and normally I end up doing the hw in the time between this class and the next. So perhaps I should start just doing it during class. It could work.
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Wednesday, April 5
New Site
I got a real site! With a domain! It may be on blogger but there's a good story for that.Alright. Basically I wrote them a letter saying they were really cool end of... 11th grade for English. And then that summer I switched to LJ, and always wanted to go back... but I never did, until now -_- I just felt really guilty for being all "You're so cool!" and then switching behind their back. I even got a letter back from them saying thanks. That's a bit sad.
I want to add some real content eventually, and expand things, and stuff like that. And if you have any suggestions I'd be glad to take them ^_^
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Rockin' the pink argyle; I love it :)
By Scottish, at 12:32 AM, April 06, 2006
It's actually more of a plum...
By Avila, at 12:36 AM, April 06, 2006
Very cool looking :) I like it a bunch...cool name too!
By erika, at 2:42 AM, April 06, 2006